QuestionerHow do you define success and happiness? Are they related, and how would one achieve that?
WarrenWell, I tell college students that when you get to be my age, you will be successful if the people that you would hope to have love you do love you. I mean, Charlie and I know a few people that have got a lot of money and they get testimonial dinners and they get their names on buildings, and the truth is nobody loves them. And, you know, not their family, not the people who named the buildings after them, you know, it's sad, and it's, unfortunately, you know, it's something you can't buy. I mean, Charlie and I've talked a lot of times if we could just buy a million dollars worth of love, you know, I mean, it would be so much more satisfactory than to try and be lovable. But it doesn't work that way, you know. But the nice thing about it, of course, is that, you know, you always get back more than you give. I mean, that, I don't know whether it was Oscar Hammerstein or who said, you know, a bell's not a bell till you ring it, a song's not a song till you sing it. Love isn't in the heart isn't put there to stay. Love is until you give it away. And basically, you'll always get back more than you give away. And if you don't give any, you don't get any. It's very simple. There's nobody I know that has, that commands the love of people around, the people they work with, their family, their neighbors, that is other than a success or feels other than it's consistent. I don't know how the people feel that, that, where they know that nobody loves them, but I can't believe they feel very good. So it's, it's very simple. You can't get rid of love. If you try to give it out, you get it back more than you've given. And it's, it's the best thing.
WarrenCharlie, what do you speak for?
CharlieWell, you don't want to be like the motion picture executive in California, and they said the funeral was so large because everybody wanted to make sure he was. dead. And there's a similar story about the minister saying at the funeral, won't anybody stand up and say a good word for the deceased? And that was this long silence, and finally one guy stood up and he said, well, he said his brother was worse. Most people in this room are going to do very well financially. Most of the college students I talk to are going to do well financially. And some of them are going to have very few friends. friends, real friends, as they get older, and others people won't be able to do enough for. And I see it around me all the time.